I agree with Parva. I think ethically, your MC should NOT be seeing you privately. I honestly don't think he should be talking to you privately either. He is a therapist for you as a couple. You have an individual therapist for that. Maybe you wouldn't care, but how would you feel if your husband was talking to your MC without you? I could see sending him an Email with a list of things you want to discuss in session, as they come up, but I agree, he never should have agreed to meet with you individually. OTOH, my T would never see me and my spouse together, because T has been seeing me singly for so long. It's unequal ground for my spouse. I KNOW how transference hurts, but your T has to behave ethically for his clients, and in your case, that is your husband and you together.