I don't mean to analyze you but from the things you're mentioning, it sounds like you have an expectation of a parental sort of attunement / response / remembering from Kashi? So, his forgetting this (no doubt important) stuff and your seeming reluctance to bring it up is likely because the memory lapse is triggering old stuff around lack of caregiver attunement?

If that's the case, I wonder if Kashi has the strong clinical skill-set / therapeutic philosophy to deal with it? Because yes, you could set up a sort of process / to-do list that will ensure that these goof-ups don't happen (E.g. He writes it down and / or you email him etc) but that is unlikely to address your real emotions around it all?

As in, can you both even get to the tip of the iceberg by talking about what is evoked when you are not remembered? So, do you feel like Kashi has the ability + willingness to help you develop a narrative of your inner life? etc.

To answer your questions, yes, I repeatedly told former T in all the ways she screwed up (I don't generally care if Ts don't remember stuff though because that's not one of my specific triggers) -- focused on her clinical responses rather than my hurt feelings coz well.....that's how I rolled with her. It led nowhere -- she was defensive, minimized it, blamed it on transference etc. I terminated.

With current T, I haven't had a significant issue come up -- her style is such that I doubt it will but in the event I need to say anything, I'm confident that she'll be non-defensive and work it out with me.