*maybe this should be its own thread... let me know and I'll move it over there**

Ok, how do you get to the tip of the iceberg if this is a trigger and it comes from preverbal period in ones life?

I know not being remembered is a big trigger for me and I see it come up frequently enough (with t and others) to see it as a ... if not one of the biggest triggers. We've talked of the many times in my past where this played out and the beliefs that have stemmed from those experiences. What is the tip of it? How does it get changed?

So far I have been living and moving forward with the thought process that over time (lots of time), I will learn with t that I am remembered (or something like that) and eventually be able to take the rift/rupture-repair cycle into my other relationships and see that those rift/ruptures didn't mean I was forgotten, ignored, or replaced. Is it just that... working with a t that is good at working these issues over a long period of time or is there more to it than that?

Oh and most defiantly, I am wanting and so comforted by that parental level of attunement I get from my t.