Yep - I find it is in rocking the boat that I am able to grow.. because as I rock, my t stabilizes and keeps us upright and in the boat. I learn to trust her more for this and the fact that she doesn't take any of it personally - or at least has yet to reflect it back to me as if she has taken it personally. The few times I have out and out asked her, her non-verbal response is very consistent with her verbal, that she is ok that the person under the t role is ok.

Rock away. Like you said you are early in this relationship with Kashi, it would be good to see how he takes feedback and deals with your feelings in the relationship sooner rather than later. It might be great, mediocre, or poorly. At least you'll know or get a sense of it.