I think it is entirely possible to really like your t and to do good work with t. That said, I have not had a t who I was just chatting with. I do spend some time each session with T1 chatting, but that is because we have agreed that is the best way forward, and the way he can be the most helpful to me.

I wonder if you are still in the getting to know him, building a therapeutic alliance with him, and if that seems too shallow because you have had a couple of good ts that you went deep with? When I read you saying that you feel comfortable talking with Kashi about stuff you never disclosed before, I think it sounds like a good match.

Do you think you might find it easier now to trust ts in general because of past experience with ts? Or is there something about Kashi's style that is exactly what you need to feel safe about opening up ugly stuff?