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Originally Posted by ruh roh
It doesn't always result in an audit that you have to defend with a tax attorney or accountant. Once, I forgot a 1099 and they wrote to me a couple years later with an amount due. I went down to the local IRS office and paid it. In that case, as with yours, it's pretty straightforward.
It's a horrible out of control feeling, so I get that, but it doesn't mean you have to hire someone to defend you. If they send a letter stating you owe, and you agree, then just send them the check.
The bigger problem isn't the IRS, it's your h, seems to me.
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Thank you for your calming response. And that last sentence. It made me have quite an insight. I don't think I can even put it into words that make sense right now but i'll try, it has something to do with what t has said - that sometimes knowing why we react a certain way helps us change how we react - and I'm absolutely seeing here that when h yells at me for something I think I'm being absolutely logical about, it's like I become that scared little girl all over again facing her father's wrath and that's why I go into panic mode because of what would come next when I was little. Even though h would never. I'm glad I'm seeing t again in 3 days, I want to really dig into this and figure out how to break this pattern.
But yes. I do believe you are right about h being a bigger problem than the IRS in this.