I have a question specifically for this group -

How do you know if therapy is helping? We all understand that it's a long process fraught with pain and challenge. But how do you know that the process isn't making things worse?

I have this strong sense that over the 5 years I've been doing this - and like you, I work really really hard at it - that my life just keeps getting progressively worse. Some of the events with my first T caused some of it (ended up in a romantic relationship in the midst of maternal transference that was catastrophic - long story...), and now I don't feel like there's much hope for progress.

The question is this: How do you know when it's time to pull the plug. Not find a new T, but throw in the towel and just limp through the rest of life.

I hope this doesn't trigger anyone. Thanks for your thoughts.