or use ignore.
also, have you tried the different skins so that maybe the background won't be white? there are different skins but i don't know what the background colors are.
no, i just checked and they're all white backgrounds.
yes, i'd say your's is an uncommon and difficult situation where you'll have to use ignore alot and be making sure you're in the "place" for chat at the time.
KD
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