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Originally Posted by Parva
I have a question specifically for this group -
How do you know if therapy is helping? We all understand that it's a long process fraught with pain and challenge. But how do you know that the process isn't making things worse?
I have this strong sense that over the 5 years I've been doing this - and like you, I work really really hard at it - that my life just keeps getting progressively worse. Some of the events with my first T caused some of it (ended up in a romantic relationship in the midst of maternal transference that was catastrophic - long story...), and now I don't feel like there's much hope for progress.
The question is this: How do you know when it's time to pull the plug. Not find a new T, but throw in the towel and just limp through the rest of life.
I hope this doesn't trigger anyone. Thanks for your thoughts.
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At times I agree about this. Sometimes you need a break from therapy. How about just telling your T that and not schedule an appointment until you are ready. That way if you feel like it was a bad choice to take a break then you can get back in. I've had to take a break before and it did me some good. But then I missed going to counseling and saw that the talk therapy was actually helping and I just didn't realize it. So I went back. Maybe this is what you need.