I would go back to the 1950s when my parents met and ask them not to leave Hungary but to stay at home. And to tell my grandfather that maybe he should look more closely at his son in law and take care of my mother. I'd tell my mother to marry the flautist and not worry about music school. To have more children. To my father to stay with his family. Just not the life they had.......

But maybe there's a purpose to it all?