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Old Nov 17, 2007, 03:51 AM
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Co-dependency is not helping people to get their needs met and do the things that they need to do to go about their lives or be safe and healthy. Co-dependency is enabling people to maintain destructive habits or ways of doing things, or helping them to avoid living their lives and being their best selves. What may be a co-dependent way of 'helping' one person might be just what someone else needs. It all depends on what that person appropriately can and should be doing for himself or herself. The level of support that my clients with IQs from the teens to the low 60s need and receive is appropriate for them, because it is what they need, but would be co-dependent and inappropriate were someone to try to give me that same level of support, because I can do more for myself, and should. Make sense?
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