I'm on a friendship site (that is strictly for making friends, you will be banned if you are trying to look for a relationship.) So its a little bit different. The question I get is "are you dating now?" which in the realm of looking for a friend is indeed inappropriate. (My profile clearly says I am single and people don't need to know anything beyond that.) On a dating site that would be a completely appropriate question, but on a friendship site, its not. I didn't make it the "no go" question, it just ended up being like that after quite a few guys asked me if I was dating right now and when the answer was "no" (I don't lie), I was ghosted....every. single. time. (Quite a few times I must say, that's how I figured out the pattern.) And this was after we'd sent a number of emails to each other. I much prefer the guys who hit on you outright b/c at least they're being honest. It feels deceptive to have the dating thing sprung on you down the road.

I'm guessing it would be easier on dating sites, too, if the guys weren't so deceptive and hiding the fact that they only want quick/easy sex.

I guess my point is that on dating sites I'm guessing there is something similar, something that guys ask that is a clue for them to move on. I have no idea what that would be as I don't go on dating sites. (I'd need someone to wait like forever for sex b/c of my trauma history, and I know those kinds of guys just aren't on dating sites.)