As a mother, I can tell you - it takes years for us not to see our children as children. To her, you are not unmoldable. She still feels an obligation to influence and control.

I think you are not able to have a relationship of equal respect yet. She doesn't sound very nice and supportive, and as much as you might want it, she may - or may not - EVER see you as an equal. Some parents just don't.

I would say, for now, continue taking care of developing yourself. It is imparetive that you understand the one best friend you must always be able to count on is yourself. Developing self respect, and self love, and self trust is so important.

When you have conversations with your parent about private things in your life, I would suggest you use opening phrases that suggest trust. Don't just throw conversation starters in the middle of making a salad. Have set times, 'when would be a good time to talk" - "I have been thinking of sharing something personal with you, would you like me too?" - "Mom, how do you feel about my living here after graduation, would you like that, or are you thinking you would prefer me to find something else".

Listen to how she responds. Does this person even see you with any respect they would give a stranger from work?

Understand?

Now is a time the relationship from parent and child will begin changing as to one adult to another, but the child is always ready for this change years before a parent.

Try learning who she is. If she is just a disrespectful jerk who will not be kind to you, I would say she doesn't deserve to be your friend. Just a mother you would always appreciate.