This situation is so hard because taking care of such young children makes you more vulnerable (you need help, can't do it all alone and you understand this). You did take a step moving to your parent's house but did your H join you in the basement? Or is he living elsewhere? When our children are not in the environment we desire for their well being, it takes a toll on our mental health and your situation is especially hard. If your H is there with you, perhaps figure out a way to get to the shelter (leave in the middle of the night while he is sleeping?) I think the shelter would be better because you may feel less isolated and controlled there. Plus your H is abusing you--that is taking a toll on you, you really need to escape being treated like that. It is shameful if your parents are letting him stay there. I've read some of your other posts. I hope the situation improves for you and your children....