When I did online dating in my 30s, many men did want to have long term relationship and marriage. In fact most men that I met. I dated some but unfortunately I just didn't find many of them interesting enough for dating or there were red flags (one asked if I'd convert to his faith etc). There were some that weren't interested in relationship but those were far in between. I just would not go on a date with them and blocked them right away (one asked my bra size wtf lol) but those were just a few

Also when I did online dating in my 30s so many men messaged me that I lost track and probably ghosted some unintentionally. There were just too many. The thing is when we just start talking to them we don't owe each other anything. I remember some men were upset that I didn't message right away. But I had a full time job, grad school at night and a kid and enormous number of men to reply. It was not about them. I then met someone and was with them for almost a decade

Well when I did second round of online dating at 49 when I was single again, there were way fewer men wanting me lol number goes down with age but I luckily met my husband quickly. So obviously older we get fewer men are out there.

Which sites are you using? I heard some sites cater to those who prefer casual sex etc make sure you aren't on free sites. Those are either hook ups or for people who possibly don't work so don't have the money to pay membership