I would just like to clarify my stance.

I'm not against urges to procreate, I'm pretty sure I shouldn't have more children (have 1) but I find myself wanting a baby at times, pretty badly if I may add.

My objection is based on 1: Why rush and ruin a new job, when waiting wont change a thing?

And 2: The OP has previously expressed her belief that a baby will fix whatever is wrong in her relationship.

I know the bf might seem harsh in his expectations for more domestication, but lets face facts here, a baby is the personification of domestication. You have to clean and care for it, 24/7.

Me personally? I love my daughter to death, but I was over it in 3 months, literally ripping my hair out because I was at her beck and call 24/7, because this little person dictated my whole life, my very existence.

Getting back to work helped immensely, helped me regain my sanity and some self esteem too.

Who knows, now that I have a much firmer handle on my BP, I'd probably be much better at it, but back then?

Ha! It's a miracle I did as good a job as I have.

Anyway. This isn't about me, I'm just providing a perspective that may shed light on why I have reservations and hopefully provides the OP with some insight from another angle.