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Originally Posted by *Laurie*
In some ways I think some people are being way too harsh with you. The urge to procreate is, after all, a basic one. Let's face it...most of us wouldn't be here if everything about our conception was 'perfect.' C'mon.
As for 'tricking' the boyfriend...well, frankly, he probably knows that sex can result in pregnancy  If someone really, truly does NOT want to conceive a child, someone shouldn't have sexual intercourse. It's the old 'Don't like the heat, stay out of the kitchen.' |
So, with the logic you put forth, I shouldn't ever have the pleasure and closeness that sexual intercourse brings in a relationship because I'm dead set on NOT having kids? With all due respect, and IMHO, that's very simplistic, 1950's black and white thinking. This, in and of itself is also, I feel, rather judgmental and harsh.
Now getting back to the OP, she wants to manipulate the situation and deceive her fiancé into having a child against his wishes. She thinks having a child will "fix" her trust and anxiety issues, when she should instead be looking for counsling/therapy on the matter. When I suggested she seek therapy in another thread, she was defensive and presented several excuses as to why she is the way she is. I should know, I am the veritable Queen of Excuse-land. Anyways, I suggest an anxiety and phobia workbook she can use while she waits for her health benefits to kick in and she can then be able to afford a therapist.