After my divorce, at age 47, I used the dating sites, Match, eHarmony, etc. One thing I discovered quickly was that the men didn't care to talk much, as in having chats or correspondence, revealing much about themselves. I wanted to do that before meeting in person. Repeatedly, I found myself pressured for a face-to-face meeting. I did meet. Some I even dated for substantial time, but in the end, I never knew enough about them. I have horror stories, but this is not the place to go into it. (I could write a book!)

I liken online dating to throwing a hook into the ocean and pulling out who-knows-what kind of monster. Also, the men I met and dated...well, if I had met them in normal social situations, like work or thru friends, would I have been attracted to them? I say NOT. Online dating sets one up for unrealistic expectations.

Also, about age....the men my age, in my 40's were looking for women in their 20's and 30's. Later, in my 50's, same thing, 20's 30's , very few even women in their 40's. Also, those I knew were looking for a woman to support them either financially or for health reasons. (I spent two years with a man who deceived me about his health, thus ending up being a nurse maid, all the while he was in touch with other women till he could get his kidney transplant.)

Seesaw, maybe it would benefit you to meet men socially, thru some events, orgs., which you find interesting. I know one woman who volunteered for Habitat for Humanity, and met her nice hubby that way.