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Originally Posted by cptaptlove
In October my relationship with my husband ended. He's was asked to leave my parents home where we lived after losing everything, even though he makes extremely good money and always have. I had no idea who he really was or what he was truly capable of until I was 2 kids and 8 year in. I spent the last 10 years thinking it can't get any worse but it just kept getting worse. Now I'm feeling totally lost and damaged. He just gets to walk away like I never existed or mattered and I'm a mess. He moved in with his father. My kid's are teenagers and seem to want to be with him more. I've sheltered them from so much including a cross dressing fetish. Is there anyone else out there? I just want to know I'm not alone. I don't know how many people have really experienced and true narcissistic sociopath but I definitely have.
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You are not alone! I too am leaving after 17 years. I would suggest learning as much as you can about codependency, inter-dependency, and self love. It's what has helped me the most. Living with a narcissist for so long leaves you very damaged and traumatized. My H managed to turn most of our mutual friends and my oldest child against me which only made the loneliness worse. The loneliness for me has been very painful. He also cut me off from any financial information initially. I did hire a lawyer and financial advisor, both women. Things are slowly coming together however initiating no contact to the best of your ability will help keep your sanity as they know how to manipulate us to feel like sh**. You've got to implement a self care plan ASAP so you don't do any damage to yourself during the healing process. It's very easy to be manipulated by other narcissistic people while being so vunerable. Keep your guard up!