Just a little about the "better" guys I've dated on OkCupid. One guy getting his Phd, was a self proclaimed "slut." When I told him I wouldn't have sex with him because it's not how I work (randomly hooking up), he got really mad and accused me of slut shaming him. I consider him "better" because we were friends first on there and he seemed decent until we started dating.

Another guy i actually dated for 3 whole weeks. It went too fast for me though. He considered our first meeting a date, even though I told him I didn't. He also like, proclaimed his intense like for me on said "Date." One time I asked him what he liked about me and he was like, "the main thing i really like about you is that you're driven to change yourself." WHAT??? lol. Man, the future me must be really great and he must be a psychic? lol. When we broke up he was really immature and tried (and succeeded) to hurt me. :-O

Man, I can't believe THESE were the *better* guys. Mainly the crappy guys just wanted sex.

Last better guy, I dated a while ago. He really was a good guy. I liked him but I wasn't sure if he liked me. I was kind of immature at the time and things ended weird.

If I get anything out of what I just wrote it's that I deserve better. We all do. and it's ok to be a woman and not date and be frustrated about that. But you don't have to either be in a relationship or be frustrated. I think there's a happier medium. I really do. It involves making the world a better place. It involves taking care of yourself. It involves joy and connection and feeling good about yourself. I really do get frustrated sometimes! But It's cool.