I no longer try the online dating. I'm older, and no longer feel the need for a partner, but for many years, after an 20 year unhappy marriage, I thought I'd meet "Mr. Right." As I said before, maybe in another thread, "I could write a book!" I've always prided myself in being able to take care of myself, financially. I spent the whole marriage struggling against a man who told me he'd put me "out on the street" with nothing, including our daughter if I tried to leave. I only left when she went away to college. At which time, he pleaded that he "loved me."

I know, I was really vulnerable. I think many women who go on the dating sites are so. I had high hopes. I spent a lot of emotional (and financial) time with such men. I almost lost everything, my home and my income to one narcissist. I had sold my house when he told me he could contribute nothing, and he was under investigation for back taxes and unpaid child support. When I notified the realtor that I would not sell my house, I never heard from the "significant other" again!

That was just one example. I met a man for dinner who seemed okay, but I felt something was odd. I searched for profile on other dating sites and found him on "Adult Friend Finder," where men post pics of the genitals, looking for sexual hookups. (I recommend search all the dating sites!)

Then there was the fella who, after I said goodnight, after one meeting, and because I didn't invite him in for sex, messaged me that he was cutting up a body in his bathtub.

This is just the tip of the iceberg of my online dating experiences. As I said before, I could write a book!

Be careful!