It is calmer now with the first one- but that is because I don't often let her talk and I restrict what I talk about to two topics I know she can't **** up. I think she is about to retire completely so that will take care of it.
I have never done goal oriented therapy nor had any interest in it -except for one horrible awful and damaging bit of cbt that I will never ever try again-so I don't know what it would be like.
I have pretty much stopped with the second one I think. I just sort of stopped due to my teaching schedule changing.