Hello all, I am 44 and I live with two pains now, almost daily. It gets worse during winter and generally during cold days (still don't know why), somewhat better during hot days. I have two major pains that, though probably harmless in general, still make my life miserable. First, I have chronic UTI which won't go away. I had like number and tons of antibiotics, I tried homeopathy, teas, I drink at least 2l of pure water daily, gave up coffee, seen 4 urologists, done cystoscopy and other tests, I am tired and mostly broke. It won't go away. I don't have any diagnosis, it's not even IC as one MD suspected. Not only does it hurt, but I also have urgent calls to bathroom almost whole day, I can't even sleep because of that or go to walk.
Second major pain, also seen by many, many expensive specialists, is in the back of my neck, just below the scull and on the right of spine, mostly pain radiates down towards shoulder and usually ends up as major headache. It's not severe pain but as with bladder it's constant and unpleasant like toothache, it's draining me completely. Still no diagnosis except some "degeneration" in spine and muscles. I am trying very hard, seen chiropractor, therapists, acupuncture, I exercise regularly (not overweight)... what not.
I am soooo tired, I haven't smiled for months and this lasts for two years already with some relief on summer. I lost will to do anything, I don't go out (because I always need bathroom urgently), I barely work and function because of neck pain (luckily my office is next to bathroom and commute is short), once the pain worsened into horrible migraine and they sent ER To pick me up from work. Ibuprofen stopped working months ago.
So so tired and out of money and options. I am also a single mom who works, single and without friends. I am aware my problems are not fatal (at least I hope not), but they still make my life miserable. How to cope?