I was in regular therapy for about two years in total and started quite late in life (at 40). In the beginning and for a while I was so into it that assumed I would be (would want to be!) in therapy for the rest of my life. Did not turn out to be the case. I worked with a psychoanalyst first and then an eclectic T, mostly psychodynamic but with strong practical elements to his thinking and approach. What I experienced over time, with both T's, was that I did not feel very comfortable going to therapy just for the sake of it, just because I like the T or enjoy the interactions. I do tend to wander and drift a lot all over the map in therapy but in my mind and the way I want to apply it to my life, I really need to see goals and perspective. Specific things I am addressing even if it's in quite a free association style. Otherwise it either feels like aimless wandering or something akin to a friendship, that I could do with good friends for free and with much less limitation. My second, most recent therapy was very helpful with my goals (I had two main ones) but progressed into exactly that feeling, that after I felt okay with the progress I had made, the interactions between the T and I were more like friendly conversations. I still liked it a lot but was becoming increasingly uncomfortable paying $$ for it (and also the time and mental energy). So at first I decided to quit completely around last November, but then changed my mind and made a deal with the T that we can keep in touch whenever I want and I can have occasional sessions to address specific things. I had one such session so far and sometimes we email a bit. It was a bit weird for a little while not to go to weekly sessions but am very happy with this arrangement now and I think it is the right choice for me as I really do not feel I have any pressing issue I need or want to address in therapy right now. If I have in the future, I'll probably return as I did benefit from it... it's just a good feeling that I have that option with the T I liked so much. But I've learned from experience that I'll never be someone who will stay in therapy for many years, decades etc. I like my T very much but would not pay a professional just for attachment... I would feel that depriving and distracting from growing and exploring in my "ordinary" life. Just my experience so far.
Growly, I think it's a good idea to discuss your feelings and concerns with Kashi but I would just keep in mind that therapists are probably more likely to try to talk you into staying - it's their business. Maybe try to take a break and see how you get by if you don't feel you need to address specific things right now?
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