I am a man and I just registered to post this. I was married to a narcissist for 15 years and we have been going through a contested divorce for two years now. One of the signs of NPD is that the divorces take a long time and are always contested. This stems from a sense of entitlement by one party.

The thing that helped me the most was reading this book called - Will I Ever Be Rid Of You by Karyl McBride. Please look it up if you haven't already read it. Reading that book gave me a lot of answers and put a lot of things in perspective.

Good luck.