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Originally Posted by Marilyn2016
So, it looks like I'm back on PC, after a two year relationship and marriage of six months. After immigration paperwork to bring over my fiance, after working non-stop to support us. After feeling worthless and useless, and watching my partner quit drinking, and then pick it up again toward the end. Back after fights and tolerating someone who is mentally unstable, while I take meds everyday like clockwork. Back to PC to stay sane, to find support, and to convince myself that the world has not just ended. He left yesterday morning to fly home to Europe, and I am sad I may never see him again, even after all of this hardship. I hope I can turn this around and make myself smile again. I miss him. I miss us. And at the same time all the stress of being with him and supporting him has melted away.
Time heals...right?
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Yes it does. Time heals everything. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. Don't keep it pent up inside of you. It's okay to miss him and miss the things you guys did. Give yourself as much time as you need to emotionally let go of him because as long as you're still emotionally attached you won't be able to move forward. Once you're done grieving then focus on yourself for a while- do the things you weren't able to because of your martial situation and learn to relive life (most of us forget how to live when we get married because we make our spouse our priority and in the process we lose ourselves to anonymity. We lose that connection with ourselves)
Watch when you are completely healed from this, everything will be okay. It's an effort you have to make consciously. It'll be super hard in the beginning but as time will go by it'll get easier.
Best of luck
