Sula--I have been wondering about you. It is not surprising that you are having trouble with your sense of identity. I know you are a mother like me and that you don't get to see your children that much (How old are they? Either you didn't say or I don't remember.) Some of us put our all into motherhood and when our children move on, there is a void and it takes a while to figure out how to move on. It is even tougher to move on if we have any unresolved issues from that period of time in our life. I appreciate you so much in so many ways and remember many of the things that are causing you pain. I will pray for you today and during other times as well. <<<big hugs>>>