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Originally Posted by Marylin
...[difficulty] getting close to people socially,so it has been easier to avoid people.
But I can't avoid socially interacting any longer cos life gets boring and I feel like I am losing out,so I have made plans to join the human race.... Can anyone here related to what I am saying by having a mixture of fear and anger triggered by social interaction ,especially if too much time is spent around others and I do not have sufficient alone time?
How can I deal with this,how do you handle it?
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"In psychology, avoidance coping, escape coping, or cope and avoid is a maladaptive coping mechanism characterized by the effort to avoid dealing with a stressor. Coping refers to behaviors that attempt to protect oneself from psychological damage."
Does this at all sound familiar?
I was just journalling at length about my own avoidance as a way to cope with anxiety - including people. Just yesterday I lied in order to avoid meeting with several friends for a date to make art and chat over coffee. So too, I have been finding excuses to avoid attending my support group.
Why am I doing this? I suppose I am afraid of failure socially, I'm afraid of not fitting in. But this is coming at huge emotional cost. I am revisiting my CBT work in hopes I can once again have enough self worth and courage to do these things.
I think your joining a group that is important to you is a very positive thing. I am glad to hear you have gained the strength and confidence to do so.