(((Squirrel))) your mom needs a t. Tell her you are not a t, and that you are very sorry, but this is upsetting you. Heck, run a guilt trip back on her and tell her it reminds you of your high school days when she and your dad divorced.

You want to tip the balance of this relationship back where it should be. You are not her mom. You are not her savior.

When i lost my job, my mother told me, she would help me, but she would not let me take her "under" with me. It was her way or the highway. I accepted her help, i accepted her conditions. If you think there is a way to do stg similar where you are the boss, then MAYBE talk to her about it. Maybe that will be enough to scare her off!

Maybe suggest seeing a t with her? Or her lawyer? Sounds like she needs help, and just talking to you about it, no offense, doesnt accomplish anything. Youre very action oriented! Tell your pdoc to give HER a shot in the butt!