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Originally Posted by *Laurie*
It sounds like your attitude toward your mom is mature and wise. I think I can understand how you feel, as my mom had BPD. She could be absolutely insane, but then she could be so loving and caring. Like two people. Despite the abuse she sometimes dealt me, I miss her a great lot.
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Was she diagnosed? I'm trying to understand BPD better.
I just had a conversation with my mom. It is so hard to even talk to her. I call her daily to check up on how she is doing (if I don't call often enough she gets mad, plus I do honestly care). She goes on a long rant about a fight with the nurse. Even though I ask her to just get to the point. And I apologize for being so blunt, but I can't stand the 20 minute rant of pointless detail. Then she starts bad-mouthing my step dad. I ask her to please stop bad-mouthing him, I will not listen to it. She says, "fine, everybody bad-mouths me!, yada yada rant rant, etc...". I just keep quiet. Nicely say, alright, I'll ttyl. End convo.
Yet sometimes, we can have such great conversations and she acts more normal. Although, she always has an extremely negative view about most everything. Not that she's wrong, tbh. She's learned from the School of Hard Knocks.