Thanks for your thoughts. I'm pretty over this thread atm. But here's my situation in case you might care to know. I'm on disability. I want to work. The agency that gave me vocational testing believes I need to overcome some things emotionally before I start working. I tend to agree with this even though its discouraging. I am trying to get better at showing up to volunteering first. It is my life and situation, I am working to make it better.

I think my thread has turned a bit into a "dating sucks and men sucks thread." Which is not what I intended, but thats ok. I contributed with my thoughts, but I still have hope and faith I'll meet someone right for me someday. And if not, hey, at least I didn't settle.

In my opinion, to tell people they are attracting ****** men into their lives is helpful, but also not helpful. It's helpful to think "how am I playing a part in this cycle?" It's not helpful to blame people though. It's a putdown, it feels bad, and it's not true.

I want to say, there's something about the blunt tone you write in that makes me feel uneasy sometimes. I don't know if you're judging or not. I know you have been supportive in the past of me and I could be reading into it. I value your opinion. But I don't know. You sound annoyed.