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Originally Posted by divine1966
How do you know I had no misfortunes? I had a lot of really bad things happen to me. You can't possibly know my life. Where is your knowledge coming from?
I am speaking about myself not always blaming others when **** happens to me. Speaking from experience
As about online dating, I was a victim of romance scam. Because I was desperate. That's how we get in trouble. I don't blame websites.
That's why I am saying it's pointless to blame place where we meet jerks for the fact that we meet them! I lived with alcoholic for many years. I do not see why it's even matter where I met him?
It certainly isn't place's fault.
It's fine to vent but when people ask about online dating and others say "you will only meet jerks", then it negatively effects people and it's unfair. I don't think it is fair to stereotype our own bad experience this way.
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Wow.
I thought this was supposed to be a supportive place!
You're being anything but supportive in this thread.
Right now you have the inability to see what its like to be unemployed, disabled, and have society spitting nails at you because these two things are undesirable. You have the inability to understand how someone in this position is facing a very uphill battle with the very real possibility of being alone for the rest of their life.
Its easy for someone on the outside to be blunt and tell us all to just pull ourselves up by our bootstraps, to suck it up and deal-----but where is the humanity? You have no idea how much *I* am hurting right now because of this very issue, and yet you give no compassion?
For pete's sake, I even mentioned my end game! Is THAT not enough for you to understand how hurt and terrified I am right now!?! But to go and kick someone when their end solution if they can't fix everything that's going wrong is "the end"....?
I may be straightforward in my posts, but if I saw that someone had a problem that was plaguing them so badly that they knew if they couldn't fix things, the ultimate solution was to not go on living-----I know I wouldn't kick them while they were down.
I strongly urge you to tap into the side of you that isn't quite so blunt and realize that people are very much hurting. This is a mental health site, and while we don't all constantly post about being suicidal, just remember that many of us have dealt with it in the past and are currently dealing with it as well. To be so harsh is just too much IMHO.