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Originally Posted by artemis-within
Completely unrelated to what i just posted but wondering. When someone responds to an email and says "It was good, was it not?" Is that rhetorical? Or does it require a response? stupid question i guess but i wonder if i should have responded.
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It depends on who it was that wrote this to me.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
It sounds rhetorical to me.
I hope you feel better for telling your husband what you think. But I really don't think you can dictate his relationship with his young adult son. Plus this seems a bit triangulated - your son talks to you (possibly even in confidence) and you go and tell your husband what he must do because of how you feel about what your son reported. It really does not take your husband into consideration it seems to me. In the situation you describe - I would probably respond more like your husband (not about saying nice things to son - but in general to having A come to me about what B said and expecting me to be different to B than I am because of how upset it makes A that I am me and not someone different)
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I know you think differently than most others on here, but I think with a parent relationship, regardless of mother/father dynamics...the focus should always be on helping the child. If her son doesn't feel comfortable talking to his father, there is a reason for it. If Art can help things along, I think she should.
That is not saying that she should expect her husband to be different, but when you have kids, that kid comes first. His health and mental health comes first.