I didn't mean to stir up the couch. I really don't think I am trying to dictate their relationship overall. But maybe I am, I do have an issue with wanting to control everything. What I really wanted, more than anything, was for h to understand how it affects our son by not hearing positive things about himself from h to help counteract the negative voices in his head. I told h I have struggled with negative voices my entire LIFE. H did admit that he has never struggled with that. I don't FEEL like I was telling h h what to do. I felt like I was asking him. I don't know.

I'm a mom who loves my son with all my heart and it hurts me so much to see him in so much pain and I had to try to do something. It just feels wrong to say "well he's almost and adult and he's in therapy now so it's not my problem." He's my son. I carried him inside of me for 9 months. And if anything I did while raising him contributed to his pain now, how can I not try to help somehow?

Sorry couch. Maybe I shouldn't be sharing this here.