I always found my mother to be an overly emotional out of control sort. I was much more in tune with my more reserved father. My brother was exactly the opposite - he is a touchy feely woowoo weeper who was much more in tune with my mother. He and my father found each other very frustrating a lot of the time in adolescence and early adulthood and did not speak the same language at all. I found my mother's emotional responses confusing. They love each other, my dad is a good grandfather etc. I loved my mother and she loved me - but we really did not understand each other. My father going to my mother and telling her to communicate differently with me or vice versa would have been like me and ex hankster trying to understand each other.
It is just different styles as I see it.