It's so hard to say... The only consistent thing to me that puts into question BP is that your high's only seem to last for 1 day and usually they need to last for a couple of weeks. Have you asked your pdoc if he/she thinks you're ultra rapid cycling? This is very unusual, but my understanding is that it exists.

As for OCD, having 3 small kids and OCD sounds maddening! Kids make messes and I can't imagine needing so intensely for things to be clean and neat in that situation and I can imagine it causing you irritability, anger, and even feeling really low.

The moods could be on a spectrum from normal reactions to difficult situations, all the way to the extremes of BP. I would mood chart including 1-10 how intense these moods are and how long they last. You could bring them to your pdoc and that might be helpful. You can also think of triggers that might be setting off these moods. It sounds like you're going through so much pain and I wish you the best.