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Originally Posted by Terish
Ugh!That's a horrible situation to be in.
My first thought was maybe you should say something to your friend and let them fight it out.
Maybe it's just how my mind works,but a scenario ran through my mind of him maybe doing something to you against your will.Then your friend believing his version of the story.
I would be afraid of him,especially since you have made it clear you don't want a sexual relationship with him and he continues to be weird.
To me it IS a big deal.It's sexual harrassment.
Stay safe.
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I really do not want my friend to think of her dad as a literally total a hole. She already thinks he's a big enough jerk, but he's moving so soon all the way across the country I am so hesitant to start that fight. I have decided that if he does get outright sexual towards me, like he did that one night over text, I will say something to her, even though that makes me feel like puking. I have saved my texts as evidence.
That scenario has run through my mind too, but as a child, he was sexually abused and it has really hurt him, so I do not think he would inflict the same pain on me. But, then again, I also never thought he would look at me like a sexual object instead of a person.
I am afraid, that's why I am hardcore keeping my distance. He says that I am just "so nice to him and most people aren't" but that doesn't justify him expressing his sexual thoughts about me, especially knowing the consequences to me if I ever did have sex with him, ruining my friendship of 7 years of with his two daughters. Thinking thoughts is one thing, expressing them is another, acting upon them is another ballpark.
I mean, he did literally say to me he can't stop his thoughts, but his actions are up to him. But he gets really drunk and that's what really scares me. He's not a horrible person, he was so sorry about making me uncomfortable, but now he thinks its okay to just sit there and say "well you know, I learned more about you and you're young and sexy and my mind just went there. but i don't ever want to make you uncomfortable" but literally keeps going, and it makes me uncomfortable. I felt better when he apologized for his actions, but I felt worse when he just wouldn't drop the subject.
I am crossing my fingers I can survive here for just a few more months before anything happens. Because if it does, it's gonna be ugly and I will be homeless, which I was avoiding by moving here.
As a side note in this weird situation, my best friend is on a little weekend getaway with her gf, and my friends dad knew I was hanging out a mutual friend who he also knows. He texted me and told me we should invite her over to make chili. Like he is injecting himself straight into my personal life. She texted me, I told her it was up to her, which is codeword in our friend group for "I would really prefer you didn't but I don't want to talk about it". So I'm going there tonight and may just stay there, or will be coming home really late when he is asleep.
I am so stressed by this.