Hi there. I am been married to my second husband now for 18 years. We have been separated for 16 years now. But it's not been like a normal separation. We still do everything together and see each other every day but we just can't live together. After about 2 years into our marriage i notices something was wrong with my husband and intimacy. He no longer touched me or wanted to make love. Then over the years we still did it once in awhile. Now it has been 2 years and i was always afraid to approach him about it because i thought he knew it was him that was the problem. But in the last couple of weeks i have been gnawing at him and asking him why he no longer desires to be with me intimately or touch me at all for that matter. He finally gave me his answer which I sure wasn't expecting. He said it is because I drink and use. I do have substance abuse issues and have for the last 30 years and he has always known and that never seemed to stop him from being intimate with me before so I got really angry at him and wasn't ever going to call him again. But we have been best friends and I really don't have anybody without him. I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions about what i might or should do. i mean i know i have to get clean and sober, but i somehow don't think that will fix our love life situation. Anyway, thanks for listening.