"Set" he is - for sure. So it is kind of stupid to get all down about it. It's like I punish myself.

I try to think up some strategy to compel him to be nicer. Like I tell him, "Say something nice to me, or I'm not doing anything for you today." Gets no results!

He'll say, in an exasperated voice, "What do you want me to say?" (I swear - this is a guy thing designed to drive women nuts.) Sometimes, I tell him - word for word. Still no results.