Oh Rose I am so sorry that he is like this with you and either can't or won't meet your needs.

You deserve to be thanked and acknowledged but what you are doing seems thankless.

I can only suggest taking as much time away from him as you can get, spending time with people who do appreciate you, doing things you enjoy as much as you can.

It sounds like this is just how he is, he's unlikely at this stage of life to change sadly.