Hi Lolina! I remember one of your first posts in here was about your job and how you felt. I commented then to confront your colleagues, but my comment was late as you quit before I made it. The real revenge would've been to stay and ignore them while doing a good job. Those people feel empowered if they find the reaction they desire. Obviously, what you are doing is disturbing you and makes you feel uneasy. Forgetting them is about your peace of mind. Resentment hurts the person who resents more than the resented people. It's like a black cloud that blocks you from seeing your own path. It's not easy. I have my own issues with some people, not at work but in my social life (they are relatives), but I always think what is the best way of revenge, which isn't necessarily hurting them. In your next job I think you need to be proactive and make sure no one will bully you before you fall into the resentment trap. Being nice and caring is good, but being too nice and too caring may make people take advantage of you or use you.
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