News flash.

Love is NEVER enough. Never, ever, ever.

Love doesn't somehow conquer all of the wrongs and make them right. (If it did, people should just stay with abusers because the abuse doesn't matter when love is in the picture, according to the love conquers all logic.)

I am honestly leaning toward undiagnosed mental illness exacerbated by substance abuse.

Is he willing to change? I mean REALLY change? If not, can you live like this for the rest of your life?

And don't buy into being the only one to make a down payment on the house. As soon as he's on the title, half is his. Why put yourself up for such financial risk? Especially when someone has shown you in every possible way that they can that they are not financially responsible and will most likely ruin you?

If the lack of stability hasn't made you crazy by now, it soon will.

Why would you blame yourself for going from thriving to struggling when you've been bombarded by an incredibly destabilizing force? Are you trying to make excuses for him?

If I were you, which I am not, I would seriously let this guy go. I couldn't see living the rest of my live in chaos. (And I don't see him changing----chaotic people tend to stay chaotic----its like its in their blood, they crave the chaos and randomness and have no real desire for stability.)