I found when I finally left all the people in my life that had no abiluty to emotionally connect & ended up moving to a small town 2100 miles away where people weren't so superficial, my caring came out for others when I endedup feeling cared about. Which was strange because I lived in the first area for 54 years of my life & moved to where I didnt know anyone & in 9 years, I now have a completely different & caring life around caring people. There are a few I avoid getting close to but there are so few in this community like that compared to where I lived before....Los Angeles where people dont even know their neighbors to a small town in Kentucky where neighbors are even better than family ever was. That makes a huge difference in how we feel abiut others