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Old Feb 06, 2017, 05:31 AM
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Also, a person who wsnts to be an astronaut has to be capable THEMSELVES of passing all the physical & even mental stability tests that are required for space travel. There is NO ONE in the world that can give them the kind of support that gets them through the education, the training & the ability to pass the tests required to SUCCESSFULLY become an astronaut. There are MORE scrubbed out of the program than the few successful ones we actually see.

I wish there was more requirements placed on people to prove they were capable of caring for a baby before they even got pregnant. There would be less abused & neglected children who end up dealing with mental illness because of it...but that will never happen & most dont even bother to think sbout it seriously as you are doing.

Everything you hsve been told about having a good suppirt system around you IS CRITICAL because with your track record of hospitalizations, if your MI becomes unstable & you end up having to go into the hospital again with no where for your baby to end up....how responsible of a parent would that really be?

Having a baby to care for as a single parent is hardenough without having a mental illness..the added stress could only end up aggrevating the MI condition. Disability brings in money but even with the extra that the child gets from it too, its hardly enough to live on if the amount wasnt based in a high salary career before hand. Love is important but so is what a child can be provided. I resented my mom for not even being able to drive because I couldnt be involved in activities that the other kids around me were doing. There wasn't even any MI involved on my Mom's situation though Im now sure there had to be in my dad's though back in those days MI wasnt known about that much.

You are wise to think about these things & to be aware of the NEEDS that are critical for providing GOOD PARENTING to a child especially planning on it being a single parent situation.

Know how difficult it was to lose your baby & the grief you are still dealing with. Focusing on your own wellness & stability might be the wisest thing at this point in your life.
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