Its a difficult place for T's when they think a person SHOULD be ready to do work the patient doesnt feel like they are ready to do. Sometimes they hope that pushing might MOTIVATE but in most cases it only tends to do the opposite.

I had a T that did NOTHING but sit & listen & provided absolutely NO help. Did no harm other than waste my time & money which i only realized after I moved away & now have the best of the best.

I just brush off the past as being just what it was & try not to hold onto hurt. There are times I would love to call him up & say....wow this is how far off you were on NOT figuring out what was actually going on wuth me, my marriage, & even my ex H (who may still be seeing him)