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Originally Posted by Demunie
Hugs quietmind. How was your coffee ice cream?
It's almost 2 p.m where i life, so luckily, monday is almost over
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The coffee ice cream was really good. I think I'll stop by that ice cream place when I need some quiet on a weekday evening.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
QM, is it possible you could talk more to your friend and T about her experiences moving OUT and getting her own place? Could you maybe room with her while you transition to being on your own. I know where you live you said it was traditional to live with your parents until you marry, but traditional does not equal mandatory. I had very controlling parents who expected us to live at home until married and even moving to a dorm for college was a huge deal. My older sibling lived at home until married, so it was a huge deal for me to refuse to come home one summer. I thought they would actually arrive to drag me home, but they didn't. They screamed and fussed and guilt tripped me, but once the initial storms were over, all I got were periodic sarcastic, derogatory remarks about my lack of family feeling. I could deal with those because I could retreat to my own place after.
Just an idea and just my experience in case it is useful. If not, please feel free to tell me to keep my nose out of it.
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MKAC, I can room with that friend if I get kicked out from the family home. I can also crash there if I need a break, I think.
But OK this might sound really pathetic - I need to feel really safe with a person to stay with them.
And it's really embarrassing to say this (because I feel like I'm badmouthing a good person whos been really supportive) but I would get justified criticism from that friend if I bring over a lot of stuff (eg clothes) because I know she provided a refuge to another person and belongings and cleanliness became an issue.
And I'm a slob. When in Scandinavia with my LDR SO (basically the only person I felt comfy sharing a room and house with), he pointed out that I struggle to maintain basic hygiene such as showering regularly and wearing fresh clothes.
I could probably work my way up starting with a "sleepover" once I build enough face to face comfort with that friend though.
OMG yes, I'm afraid my parents will come drag me home too. In order to go to Scandinavia for my trip, I lied a lot because otherwise they were going to insist on coming with me. I basically lied and said I would be living with my SO, his parents and siblings and only then was I allowed to go.
Hmm, I could work up to some story about a group of female friends having a sleepover maybe?