if you force it on yourself it will eventually become second nature i think. but dont expect it to be a quick, easy process.

when i first met my boyfriend i couldnt even let him hug me because of what my ex did to me. its been almost 2 years and im okay with some things but i still feel like i have to have sex with him even if i dont want to because i dont want him to get mad and do something. i know for a fact that he wouldnt but its just been engrained in my mind that if i dont put out, guys wont like me. because guys have broken up with me for not sleeping with them. and after 2 years that thought is still in my mind. but its backfired on me and now he is almost afraid to have sex because he doesnt want to trigger any bad memories and have me flip.

so please dont be hard on yourself if its not instantaneous. you need to give yourself time to adjust. but if you make a conscious effort im sure youll get there.

good luck.