((((((((((( angela ))))))))))))

You know me well, yes, and what I often times don't relate well. You know I'm a doer, a fixer, someone so skilled at separating to do what needs to be done (better than most) so ppl in my life don't see my struggling, my emotional flailing, my fear. You know me well.

You also seem to know how a partner may assume and respond to that...in oblivion due to my massive skills.

To update, your partially right in that he feels that I'm doing just fine and now that things have calmed, I'll skate. He doesn't know the panic, fear, uncontrolled anxiety I have for my family...especially my daughter and her little one.

He offered to stay home and I realized that that's all I needed to hear...for him to acknowledge that I might need him and, more importantly that he'd be here.

Of course, that being all I needed, I told him that I was overreacting and though it will be tough, it will be fine for a week.

I see now what had me hurt and angry...actually fearful, I guess...that he wasn't seeing my desperation and need. When he did, and reinforced that he cared and would do what I needed, it was fine.

I felt again, on my own, that I can (as you said) handle just about anything...especially if it's for a short time. I just needed to hear him acknowledge how horrible it's been and that he knows I'm struggling. He gave me that and it feels like the world is right again.

You're a good friend and I appreciate you.

KD