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I'm very independent and feel like all that would be taken away, I'd never be alone again (I like my me time) and I'd lose the freedom to just go and do whatever I wanted, or to travel and see the world. I know those reasons sound oh so selfish. I sometimes worry as well that I'll not make a good mother, or that I'll struggle because of my MH diagnosis. I'm always so tired, even on ten hours sleep so I worry I wouldn't cope with a crying baby keeping me up all night.
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No those reasons don't sound selfish, and certainly concerns about MH are valid and sensible.
That said your words about independence and not having time to yourself jumped out at me. Yes early parenthood is very intensive, it is a shock to the system for many of us, but that phase is only a few years. I'm the other side of this now and can tell you it's pretty wonderful when they are grown and you can have interesting conversations with them, often these days I find my son makes me consider life in a way I wouldn't otherwise.
It's a big decision, if you need more time then tell your H about your concerns, but please do consider the long term impact not just the baby/small child phase.