Raven it is very hard when you need emotional reassurance from others and they turn round and find that you are too needy,if like me the minute people sense I need them they become rejecting.I went through this process for years,I was depending too much in this respect on people who abused me and my needs and trust.I was forced to separate from these people and rely completely on myself, so I was finding myself needy and desperate and completely alone,instead of clinging on to just anyone I went into freefall,got in touch with my inner child who was feeling neglected and now abandoned and I started talking to her,looking after her ,giving her attention and emotional validation so that she started talking back and feeling good and strong and no longer needy,she grew up and the adult me continued to support her and me,I learnt self love,self validation,self support.No longer did I need people emotionally to validate me and fill the hole,there wasn't anymore emptiness.I could emotionally support myself and no more did I need to people to lean on.Surprise I then started finding myself in demand other people liked me and wanted me around,then smelt independence and self supporting,self sustaining,confident,capable vibes off me and wanted me around.

I it a big change from emotionally clingy and needy to independent and self supporting but it is worth experiencing the two opposites,once you have overcome neediness to become emotionally strong and independent from a cling needy state the positive side of it is you never have to go back to feeling,empty,needy and clingy again cos you have grown all the strength to validate yourself emotionally and loving yourself and that poor inner child is the key.

I thought I would share all this with you because it is what is my experience and what has helped me,I hope sharing this with you helps you Raven and I am here to help more if you want to talk more.Overcoming negativity in your thoughts is another big step and I hope you therapist can help you with that.